Anger
Anger
A punishment you give for someone else’s mistake
No one enjoys feeling angry or agitated. When we fail to show compassion toward others’ mistakes, frustration builds—not just toward them, but eventually toward ourselves. Gaining a little understanding of our own mind, our consciousness, and the roots of our inner disturbances can change this.
Even our breath has a powerful lesson to teach us—one we’ve long forgotten. Through breathing techniques and meditation, we can calm the mind, find clarity, and transform our reactions. When we do, anger becomes costly, and our smile becomes free.
The Surprising Secret About Anger
Tips to Get Rid of Anger
Exercise
Often people who don’t do much physical activity, get more angry. All that Rajas is stuck in the body. They’re stuck in the head. You must go for long walks. Run on the treadmill, and exercise. Yoga is a very good alternative for this. Practice Sun Salutations. Then you get so exhausted. You have no energy to get angry.
Breathe and meditate
Take a deep breath, and calm down. Regular practice of pranayama and meditation definitely provides you with the needed strength to overcome anger.
Broaden your vision
This world cannot be so perfect, so broaden your vision. Give some room for imperfection. Don’t hold on to this only “I am right”.You accommodate others’ points of view also. You cannot make everyone the way you want them to be. Unpleasant things are bound to happen. When it happens, you should have the strength and courage to move on.
Accept people, things and situations as they are.
Watch your food
If you’re a Pitta type of person, you’re prone to anger. Make sure you have your food in the first quarter of the day. Have something to eat within two hours of sunrise. If you don’t, then Pitta shoots up. Morning breakfast is absolutely essential for Pitta types. Don’t take too much of that Tabasco sauce & hot chilli sauce. Don’t fast too long and eat on time. Your food can put more fire into you. Your pitta goes out of balance then you’ll be in a perpetual state of red alert.
When your pita is balanced you will not lose your temper for no reason.
What to Do When Someone Else Is Angry?
When someone around you is upset, the first thing is simple: don’t get upset along with them. If someone is yelling or shouting, let them have their moment. Stay calm and be a spectator, not a participant, in their drama.
Remember, there will be times when you lose your temper too. That’s fine. The real problem comes when everyone is acting angry at once and no one is observing. Take turns, stay centered—and even find a bit of humor in the situation. Humor is the best antidote to anger. When you’re centered, humor arises naturally.
Also, if someone is losing their temper for no clear reason, know that their pitta (inner heat) might be high. Help them cool down—offer ice cream, milk, or anything that soothes the system.
Should I Never Get Angry?
Anger itself isn’t bad—as long as it’s fleeting. It should pass as quickly as the line drawn on water. Don’t blame yourself if anger arises occasionally; self-blame can be more harmful than the anger itself, especially on the spiritual path.
Expressing anger can even be useful, if done consciously. For example, a mother may raise her voice or act tough to protect her children from danger. Anger, when expressed with awareness and purpose, can motivate you to take action or face challenges you might otherwise avoid.
But remember: anger is like fire—it can warm you or burn you. If it leaves behind bitterness, it will only harm you from within. Reflect on the aftermath of anger: Were you truly happy with the words you spoke or the decisions you made in that state? Likely not, because in uncontrolled anger, awareness is lost.
When anger is expressed with full awareness—without losing yourself—it can serve a purpose. Otherwise, let it go as quickly as it comes.